Ami Angelowicz (The Frisky) theorizes on this. I'm not sure whether she's right, but it struck me as amusingly put, especially as to item 2. Then there's always the "crazy enough to sleep with me" option.
Thanks to InstaPundit for the pointer.
I think in all cases we're talking about a vanishingly small subset of the actual population.
One could drill down a little further and wonder why one person perceives that there are a lot of self-destructive women and another doesn't but we probably ought to leave that alone.
Most single guys will dispute the ready availability of non-crazy females.
Then there's always the "crazy enough to sleep with me" option.
Okay, let's see if our definitions of crazy match (or let's just say "crazy behavior")... picture this… it's Christmas Eve. Your close buddy just broke up with his girlfriend who he has a newborn son with. He calls you asking for you to come over and have a few drinks with him so that he isn't alone the night before a big holiday. You tell your new wife, and she doesn't like the idea. A minor argument ensues. Without warning, your lovely new wife picks up your 6' tall, fully decorated tree and hurls it at you, the porcelain angel narrowly missing your head. Dozens of glass ornaments break all over the kitchen floor. You decide to leave in order to avoid full meltdown of said wife. Upon driving away, you look back at your house and watch, in horror, as your sweet little lady proceeds to PUNCH through 2 of the 3 living room windows, cutting up her fists, screaming obscenities the entire time. Crazy? We get small trees now.
Upon driving away, you look back at your house and watch, in horror, as your sweet little lady proceeds to PUNCH through 2 of the 3 living room windows, cutting up her fists, screaming obscenities the entire time. Crazy? We get small trees now.
Or do any of the gentlemen commenters have anecdotes about professionally employed "crazy" women 30 an older?
I'd think it's more like the inverse of #2. You find someone who is quirky-fuuny and uninhibited in the sack, wild in thought and deed, and then, too late, you discover they're not just idiosyncratic, they really a___h___s. At this point, you tolerate the increasingly abusive behavior, hoping you have reached some outer boundary, for the sake of the screaming...passion, let us say.
Okay, so she's crazy. But I'm betting she's not the only one at fault in that house, that's all.
I suspect that in general there is an element of "catching attention". "Crazy" is one of the aspects which gets noticed.
They request domestic violence restraining orders, have the other partner arrested prosecuted, and then constantly and continuously visit the alleged perp, who will often succumb to the temptation.
What's even scarier is that these folks are repeat offenders, and rarely learn much from mistakes.
ducks don't flock with geese
I mean, the guy breaks up with the mother of his newborn baby on Christmas Eve, and then asks his newly-married buddy to spend the holiday evening with him instead of with his wife, and the buddy thinks that's a reasonable request?
And their latent craziness isn't totally latent. It's visible if you get up close. Which is why the crazy person picked them; they spotted that kernel of craziness.
Ideally, the wife would have invited the guy over, since that's what you do when you have friends in need on Christmas.
I mean, the guy breaks up with the mother of his newborn baby on Christmas Eve, and then asks his newly-married buddy to spend the holiday evening with him instead of with his wife ...
I'm a total crazy girl (reformed, holla!). I've calmed down considerably since my late teens/early twenties (I'm 26 now) but every once in awhile, I feel like doing something totally nutso when I'm pissed. And I can honestly say that I have no clue why my husband kept coming back for more during my ultra psycho days. I'm a really good person with strong values and a normally sweet demeanor, but I used to be destructive, vindictive and psychotic when angry. Is it a Scorpio thing?
And let me just clarify that it has been years (at least 4) since I've done anything crazy. I guess that I fall into the category of "self-healed".
* To me, the original comment was ambiguously worded by "Green Aura" -- it might well have been the woman who initiated the breakup and took the buddy's son away from him.
If you've been raised in an abusive household - or even a non-abusive one that had dysfunctional relationships - you form different schemas of attachment than if you've been raised in a loving, accepting, secure household. About 70% of kids will keep their attachment pattern from childhood to adulthood
Have you ever been in love?
most sane people have a relatively limited ability to pick up on crazy. And that does lead a lot of them into short-lived relationships with crazies.
They tend to get the bad news around the end of the usual honeymoon period.
My guess is that he fell in love with her good side -- "a really good person with strong values and a normally sweet demeanor" -- and couldn't back out of the deal after she'd later revealed her ocasionally psychotic aspect.
whose anger management problems didn't really manifest (with him) until after they had started living together
I saw this happen to a friend in college who hooked up with a young woman whose anger management problems didn't really manifest (with him) until after they had started living together.
If this woman was able to hide her "anger management problems" long enough to hook your friend, then I'm guessing that she was able to manage her anger quite well when she wanted to, and actually was just extremely bad-tempered.
I disagree about crazy women being driven by legitimate complaints.
But I figured we could save the male bashing for the next installment which is why women love a55holes.
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